1. Resourcefulness: the ability to proactively and independently solve problems and seek help from others
- Do: create opportunities to develop coping skills
- Do: share how you solve your own problems (modeling)
- Do: teach that there are multiple ways to solve problems
- Do: teach how to self-soothe, have emotional control
- Don't: jump in too early or become impatient; give them a chance to problem solve
- Don't: become so stressed that you are unable to model resourcefulness
- Do: model enthusiasm by expressing it often and over a range of activities
- Do: remember that entitlement kills enthusiasm
- Don't: expect your child's way of expressing enthusiasm to be the same as yours
- Don't: use your love or approval as a way of manipulating your child's interests
- Do: keep materials that encourage creative expression easily available
- Do: encourage open-ended activities and unstructured play
- Do: encourage problem-solving
- Do: limit screen time
- Don't: lose patience with the skeptical child
- Do: model enthusiasm for hard work (and feeling a sense of accomplishment)
- Do: make sure the work they are expected to do is reasonable and not overwhelming
- Don't: expect all kids to put in the same kind of effort
- Don't: insist on their best effort on absolutely everything
- Do: model self management yourself
- Do: allow them to experience moderate levels of distress/challenge/struggles
- Do: show you value their ability to go against the crowd
- Don't: expect them to learn without your guidance
- Don't: dismiss or minimize their negative feelings (help them deal with anxiety)
- Do: encourage them to work outside of their comfort zone
- Do: let them know you have confidence in their abilities
- Do: help them break goals into smaller, more realistic goals
- Don't: allow them to shift responsibility for difficulty to others
- Don't: praise indiscriminately
- Do: help them to appraise their capabilities realistically
- Do: provide opportunities for them to contribute successfully to the family
- Don't: project your own anxiety on them as they move forward
- Don't: protect your child from failure
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